Tuesday 19 July 2022

On Marriage: a new perspective

Since 17 July 2022 about 8:30 am, I officially become a husband. All things feel so surreal, even till now. The girl I have "just" known for a year, is now my wife. All preparations, planning, and sleepless nights finally paid off.

What is marriage life like?

I don't know either. I have just got married in less than 48 hours. I am well aware that we are still in the so-called "honeymoon phase". All things still look like bright stars, sounds like the best music, and tastes like the finest food we can imagine. All good and fun.

As I said in the previous post about my view on marriage, marriage is about compromise. You gotta deal with it. And it apparently starts about now. Know that you will live with someone you "just" met in the past few months (or years), and then you will spend the rest of your life with her. In the very "simple" form of compromise, I have to deal with the differences between us. I cannot sleep unless total darkness, while she can sleep under any lighting condition. I use liquid soap to shower, while she prefers the solid one. She likes her pillow thick and bold, while I prefer it thin and super soft (in fact, I can sleep without pillow at all). And all kinds of compromise to be discussed.

I am aware that there will be obstacles along the way. A lot of steric hindrances, prohibiting agents, corrosion, etc. And that is one part of being a grown-up, the ugly one. We have to learn to overcome our problems. And the lesson never stops.

I don't know. As for me, we should cherish this honeymoon phase and prepare our best for the coming obstacle.

Yogyakarta, 19 July 2022

At a Hotel in Jalan Magelang

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